Making the Choice

Two individuals, from entirely different worlds, find themselves in the same church, worshiping the same God. Their circumstances align and soon they find a common thread. They date, share things, and begin building a relationship. They are both Christians, thus making the decision to do things the right way [i.e. not living together, not having sex] is easy. So that's what they do.

After a number of years, they decide to marry. Before the wedding, the young man makes a vow to himself and God--if this wedding were to somehow not work, he would not be with anybody else. Of course, that's what the Bible says. If two people divorce--unless if it's because of an unfaithful woman--the man, should he choose to marry again, would be comitting adultery.

After a short time, the marriage falls apart, adultery is [presumed] committed by the woman, and a divorce is filed. Now sits the young man of only 20 wondering how he is going to be content with living single for the rest of his years. He prays, searching for answers... wondering why this happened, what he's supposed to do now. He tells God that if there is another woman that he is to be with and love, that she needs to be shown to him. And that very thing happened. It happened in the parking lot of a Mexican restaurant. It was a 'friend of a friend' with perhaps a darker look [such as that of his previous lover] with long, dark hair. To him, this was God showing him this woman he had questioned the existance of.

Nonetheless, these two individuals, from even more different backgrounds came together. She was a lost soul, slipping further and further into a cold-hearted, cynical life. But he swept her off her feet, so-to-speak. He opened her eyes to the wonders of God. He told her about the mindset of waiting until marriage to be intimate. Yet, the young woman, desperate for acceptance [particularly from a man], had used that sacred part of her soul with the wrong notion that that's how you got someone to like you. But something different had happened; he accepted her for her and her past mistakes. They began to date, unfortunately letting Satan turn an ignorant shoulder to the lifestyle of a Christian, both out of their own unanswered dilemmas. The Bible talks about divorce, but does it mention what one is to do after divorce? How does this young man reap the benefits of marriage, but just forget about them and turn his back on them to date someone after marriage? And how does this woman, already feeling neck-deep in mistakes, feel like she can turn around?

Here it is, nearly a year later. The young man struggles to reverse his mindset from marriage to dating, while the young woman has finally triumphed over her false thoughts of what is needed for acceptance, yet still doesn't know how to turn around all the way. She realizes that our Lord accepts her and loves her no matter what she does, even if she does sin. She wants to be a full-time Christian now, and knows her lover wants that same thing, but they find themselves constantly struggling to fight off the temptations, often losing. The young woman prays that God will show her the way to overcome the curses of her past that keep taking her eyes off of christ and the life she knows she deserves to have. After conversations one beautiful May day with some powerful sources, she comes to the conclusion that a rational, conscious choice must be made. She has decided to leave the mistakes in the past and become not just a little, but all the way reborn in God's eyes. She knows it will be hard and Satan will try even harder to take her off track, but the power of the Lord will prevail over evil and she will close yet another chapter in her life.