Fight Like a Girl

"I am always under the mistaken impression that if I can figure it out, then I can fix it. The truth is, there is just so much you can do, and then you have to surrender it to the Father. There is just so much you can say, and then you have said too much." -- Lisa Bevere, author of Fight Like a Girl

I'll tell you what... I have read more sentences in this book that are direct hits to my life as far as relevancy goes, than I've ever found before. I randomly came across this book, mind you, shortly after Jesse and I broke up, and I'm so glad I did. It was totally a God thing that I found this book. Right off the bat, it touched on issue after issue we had, things I had no idea about, just so much practical information for my life.

But TODAY!... Reading that paragraph, I was totally blown away by how much it applies to my life. I am just now in the midst of learning the lessons about trying to counsel in situations and actually making things worse by saying too much. She makes a great point for me--I may know the solution to a problem, or see who is in the wrong, or see what needs to change, but that doesn't mean, by any means, that I can, or that I even have the right to be the one fixing things. That is me trying to step into the role of my Lord, as opposed to letting Him do His will as He wants. I need to take a back-seat role to situations. And in the case of friends who decide to confide in me, I need to do a lot less talking and a lot more listening. It means enough that I am taking time out of my day to listen and be there as support. No one is expecting me to have all the answers and solve everything. I need to realize that.

"When we are no longer motivated by the earthly human need for acceptance, we will not feel driven to repeatedly prove ourselves right."